Why am I so tired?
It’s one of the questions I hear most often. Not just from clients, but from friends, colleagues, and sometimes even from myself.
We tend to stop at the first question: “Why am I so tired?” And then we immediately start looking for an answer.
- Maybe I need more sleep.
- Maybe I need more vitamins.
- Maybe I need to push harder.
- Maybe I need another coffee.”
Sometimes those are the answer… Sometimes they aren’t.
Instead of asking only, “Why am I so tired?”, what if we became curious enough to ask:
- Am I physically tired… or emotionally drained?
- When was the last time I felt genuinely rested?
- Do I feel this way all the time, or mostly around certain people or situations?
Notice something
None of those questions assume there’s something wrong with you. They simply invite you to notice. That same gentle curiosity can be applied to so many experiences.
If you can’t stop overthinking, instead of asking, “How do I make my brain stop?”, you might ask:
- What am I trying so hard to get right?
- What am I afraid will happen if I make the wrong choice?
- Is there actually a problem right now, or is my mind trying to solve tomorrow?
If your body keeps hurting, instead of immediately asking, “How do I make this pain go away?”, you might ask:
- When does this usually happen?
- What was happening just before I noticed it?
- Is there something I’ve been needing that I keep putting off?
Not every symptom has an emotional cause, and not every pain has a hidden meaning… But…
Our bodies often carry information our busy minds haven’t had time to notice.
If you feel guilty whenever you rest, perhaps the question isn’t, “Why am I so lazy?” Perhaps it’s:
- What did I learn that made rest feel like something I have to earn?
And if you never feel like you’re doing enough, even though everyone around you tells you otherwise, perhaps the question isn’t, “How can I do more?” Perhaps it’s:
- Who taught me that what I do determines my worth? 🤔
Healing begins with curiosity
After nearly three decades of practicing medicine and coaching clients, I’ve learned that the most healing conversations rarely begin with advice. They begin with curiosity.
Not the kind that interrogates. The kind that listens. The kind that makes room. The kind that says, “There’s probably more to this story.”
Your body is not your enemy. Your emotions are not interruptions. Your exhaustion isn’t proof that you’ve failed. Sometimes they’re simply invitations to pause long enough to notice what has been asking for your attention.
You don’t have to figure it all out today. You don’t have to solve every symptom. You don’t have to force insight. Just begin by asking kinder questions. You may be surprised by what your body has been trying to tell you all along.
With warmth,
DrLinJo
She Heals: Unearthing the Root, Empowered by Intuition
